Specialty Areas
of Therapy

*  Child Counseling
*  Anxiety and Fears
*  Depression
*  Mood Disorders
*  Grief Counseling
*  Divorce Counseling
*  Parenting Solutions
*  Premarital Counseling
*  Relationship Issues
*  Trauma and PTSD

Suggested Reading for Children

These Books are designed to help your children with problems and situations that are troubling them. They are grouped by general category for younger children. Click here for books to help slightly older children and young teens.

Links is provided that will open a new window or tab for more infomation or purchase from Amazon for most books. Books may also be found in our library system. Use this link to open a new window or tab to search the San Antonio Library Catalog.

Children 9 and Under

About Feelings:

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Double-Dip-Feelings-Children-Understand-Emotions, by Barbara Cain, 2001: Experiencing two opposing emotions can confuse and misguide a child’s behavior. This book helps a child to understand their own, confounding emotions in a way that they can own and accept them, therefore reducing behavior problems.
Feelings
Feelings by Aliki Brandenberg, 1984 - A fun book that uses a comic-like approach to teach children about their feelings and how they are played out through interaction with their peers. The author uses a very effective approach in demonstrating how certain behaviors influence our emotions.
Today I Feel Silly
Today-Feel-Silly-Other-Moods, by Jamie Lee Curtis, 1998: This is a simple and fun book that introduces young children to the world of their moods. It comes with creative wheel that changes the eyes and mouth to reflect different emotions.
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How Are You Peeling?, by Saxton Freymann and Joost Elffers, 2004: Another fun book that cleverly demonstrates different emotional interactions between fruit and vegetables.

Glad Monster

Glad Monster, Sad Monster; a book about feelings: by Ed Emberley and Anne Miranda, 1997: Children really love using the very colorful and jubilant masks that tell a story of different feelings.

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What To Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck; a kid’s guide to overcoming OCD: by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D., 2007: This is a very helpful book for children who have intrusive and repetitive thoughts that are upsetting and keep them from enjoying their childhood.

What to Do When You Worry Too Much, by Dawn Huebner, 2006: This book draws on imagery and metaphor to explain how worry steals a child’s power. It also give some easy to understand remedies for worry.

When Fuzzy Was Afraid Of Losing His Mother, by Inger Maier, 2005: Separation anxiety is the topic discussed in this book. It uses the personification of sheep to demonstrate what it feels like to separate from your mother and ways to reconcile those feelings by becoming more and more comfortable being away from his mother.

Up and Down the Worry Hill; A Children’s Book about Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and it’sTreatment: by Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., 2004, 2 nd edition: Great use of metaphor in this book to exemplify how worries are difficult to extinguish, yet can feel as free and easy as riding a bike down hill once faced and dealt with.

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Jealousy and Needing Attention:

Let's Talk About Needing Attention, by Joy Wilt Berry, 2008: Excellent book for children who are feeling left out in their families. As they read along, they are able to identify their feelings of being left out and ways to make decisions that lead them to getting the kind of attention they want.

When I feel Jealous, by Cornelia Maude Spelman, 2005; Helps children admit to their feelings so they are able to make decisions to respond in a more appropriate way to their feelings of jealousy.

Understanding and Appropriately Expressing Anger:

Hands Are Not For Hitting, by Martine Agassi, Ph.D., 2000; One of the best ways to redirect young children is through re-direction. This book shows ways to thwart aggression and use their hands that will bring about positive consequences and keep away the negative ones by using hands for hitting.

When I Feel Angry; When I Feel Angry, by Cornelia Maude Spelman, 2000: A creatively written book that demonstrates to children ways they can understand their anger and what they can do to feel better.

Mad Isn’t Bad; A child’s Book About Anger, by Michaelene Mundy, 1999: This book separates the emotion of anger from acting in anger. It highlights the importance in making decisions that lead a child where they want to go rather than getting in trouble.

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Divorce and Absent Fathers and Mothers:

Dinosaurs-Divorce, by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown 1988 An older book with very current message using the enjoyment of watching a dinosaur family learn to cope the difficult situation of divorce.

Do I Have a Daddy?, By Jeanne Warren Lindsay, Revised Edition Copyright 2000: A very compassionate account of children growing up without their father. It serves a dual purpose of giving an appropriate account for mother and child. It also includes an excellent section just for single parents with tips on ways to deal honestly with this difficult situation.

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Daddy-Doesn’t-Live-Here-Anymore, by Betty Boegehold, 1985, An older book that is still relevant to situations of divorce. Displays the scenario of divorce in a way that children can make better sense of the transition they find themselves going through.

When My Parents Forgot How to Be Friends, by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos, 2005. Uses a young girl to narrate her life moving through the process of her parent’s breakup through her current ability to understand and cope with the challenging transition of divorce.

Two Homes, by Claire Masurel, 2001 –While helpful to prepare children for the upside of divorce, it is missing the downside.

I Don’t Want To Talk About It, by Jeanie Franz Ransom, 2000: This book is aimed at helping children of divorce in the ages 4 to 8 range. It is excellent in dealing head on with a very common experience at this age where the child just doesn’t talk about it. Very good in working with the natural resistance a child feels to help them get ‘unstuck’.

My Family’s Changing, by Pat Thomas, 1999: “This plainspoken text by a psychotherapist and counselor deals with the basic problems and feelings accompanying a divorce and is directed to children and those adults who are helping them confront this traumatic experience.”

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Friendship and Social Skills:

How To Be a Friend, by Laurie Kransy Brown and Marc Brown, 2001: A very simple and fun cartooned book using fun-loving dinosaurs takes a child through many different difficult situations that arise when attempting to develop friends. Shows a child what works and what does not.

I’m Sorry, by Sam McBratney, 2006: A simple and playful look at how to move past disagreements.

We Can Get Along; A child’s book of choices by Lauren Murphy Payne, MSW , 1997: Very helpful in showing children how choices influences consequences, both positive and negative. Especially useful for the child who has trouble keeping their hands to themselves at school.

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Bullying:

Bye-Bye, Bully!; A Kid’s Guide For Dealing With Bullies By J.S. Jackson, 2003: Offers excellent strategies for a child who is running up against school bullies. Very concrete messages appropriate for school age children.

Willimena Rules! Rule Book #6: How to Face Up to the Class Bully, (Bk. 6) (Paperback), 2007; by Valerie Wilson Wesley (Author), Maryn Roos (Illustrator). Provides children a number of assertive ways to handle bullying behavior.

A Children’s Book About Being Bullied, by Joy Berry, 1988: Gives a good account of what it feels like to be bullied and some appropriate responses to keep a child from being picked on.

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Discussing Death:

When Dinosaurs Die; A guide to Understanding Death, by Laurie Kransy Brown and Marc Brown, 1998: The authors, using their ever famous dinosaur family, takes children through sickness, hospitalization as well as looking at helping children understand the meaning of death; often incomprehensible for children of all ages. Nice section on ways to remember someone who has died; very helpful way to move beyond death.

The Next Place, by Warren Hanson, 1998: A very ‘dreamy’ book about where loved ones go, describing heaven as the skies.

I Miss You, A First Look At Death, by Pat Thomas, 2000. Offers good, factual information about death, funerals, saying good bye and internalizing what that person meant to them.

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Trauma and Sexuality:

The Right-Touch, by Jody Bergsma, 1998. PreSchool-Grade 3, A picture book that clearly instructs children on how to deal with unwanted and inappropriate touching through a heart-to-heart talk between a little boy and his mother.

Your Body Belongs to You, by Sandy Kleven, 2000. “PreSchool-Grade 2. This book is positive and assertive without being frightening. It lets young children know that it's all right for them to choose when, and by whom, they are to be touched."

My Body Belongs to Me, by by Jill Starishevsky, 2009; “…this critically acclaimed book sensitively establishes boundaries for youngsters. In a non-threatening, engaging manner, this guide teaches kids that when it comes to their body, there are some parts that are for “no one else to see” and empowers them to tell a parent or teacher if someone touches them inappropriately….. " This book should be available Fall 2009.

My Body Is Private, by Linda Walvoord Girard, 1992: Good exemplary demonstration of healthy boundaries for children. Uses an honest approach to how easily a trusted friend or relative can abuse trust with children and ways children can fend against this.

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I Can’t Talk About It; A child’s Book About Sexual Abuse, by Doris Sanford, 1986: Bravely written to cover a topic most writers avoid. Effectively deals with the mixed emotions many children feel after they have been sexually abused by someone they had trusted. Frankly addresses a child’s feeling of guilt and why abuse is never a child’s fault.

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My Body Belongs To Me, by Kristin Baird, 1986: All time favorite book for many therapists in frankly educating children for many different purposes. This book is recommended for situations of transition such as divorce as a precautionary measure for older children and new adults who may come into a child’s life at a vulnerable time. It is of course an excellent resource for children who have been touched inappropriately. This book is almost impossible to buy, but you might find it at the library.

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Brave Bart; A Story For Traumatized and Grieving Children, by Caroline H. Scheppard, ACSW, 1998: This is a story teller’s approach to allowing children who have experienced a wide array of loss or trauma to work through the feelings that emerge from these life experiences. Also hard to obtain and we suggest trying the Library. No Image

 

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Middle School Children Ages 10 to 13

Never Give Up : Four Stories About Determination, by Denise Rinaldo and Kathleen J. Edgar, 2002: Inspiring look at the lives of Lance Armstrong, Aung San Suu Kyi, Jackie Robinson and Eleanor Roosevelt.

The Gifted Kids’ Survival Guide, by Judy Galbraith, MA 2009: Candidly addresses many difficulties of children who are considered of ‘gifted’ intelligence. Chapters deal with social issues and include one titled “Perfection Infection”. Helps very bright kids cope with the awkwardness of being different than other less bright children.

Stick Up For Yourself; Every kid’s guide to personal power and positive self-esteem, by Gershen Kaufman, PhD, Lev Raphael, PhD, and Pamela Espeland, 1999. My all time favorite for middle-school-age children. This book focuses on the very social time in a child’s life and helps children understand themselves better by learning about their feelings, needs and ways to be assertive without remaining passive or being aggressive. A great self-esteem builder!

Too Old For This, Too Young For That! Your Survival Guide for the Middle-School Years, by Harriet S. Mosatche, PhD, and Karen Unger, MA, 2005. This is a great child’s guide to success in middle school. Provides tips on getting along with friends while staying close to your family.

Bullies Are A Pain In The Brain, by Trevor Romain, 1997: Discusses ways to be more comfortable with yourself while learning very specific ways to handle bullying behavior.

Stress Can Really Get on Your Nerves!, By Trevor Romain and Elizabeth Verdick, 2000: Gives kids a better understanding why they are feeling stressed while supplying a number of different ways to relieve the stressors in their lives.

Cliques, Phonies, & Other Baloney, by Trevor Romain, 1998. Reading level ages 9-12. Social situations get more complicated as Children move into their middle grades. This book will help them navigate with humor through arrays of cliques, friendship groups, and phonies to find their real friends. It addresses the problems of popularity versus being popular with yourself. Examples are given and commonly held myths are exploded all with easy humorous prose including common slang. A very readable text for the young.

Think Good-Feel Good; A Cognitive Behavior Therapy Workbook For Children and Young People, by Paul Stallard, 2002: An excellent workbook for children who have problems with depression or anxiety to help ‘re-train’ their brain to overcome every day obstacles.

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For Teens

Fighting Invisible Tigers: A Stress Management Guide for Teens, 2008- Earl Hipp, New updated edition. Adolescents are affected by stress in unique ways that can increase impulsivity and risky behaviors. This book offers proven techniques that teens can use to deal with stressful situations in school, at home, and among friends. They'll find current information on how stress affects health and decision making and learn stress-management skills to handle stress in positive ways including assertiveness, positive self-talk, time management, relaxation exercises, and much more.

When Nothing Matters Anymore: A Survival Guide for Depressed Teens, by Bev Cobain R.N. C . 2007. For Grades 7 and up this book tackles the difficult problems of teen depression. It is a compassionate, knowledgeable, hand to teens trying to understand the complex and frustrating dynamics of living with depression.

The Social Success Workbook for Teens Skill-building Activities for Teens With Nonverbal Learning Disorder, Asperger's Disorder, & Other Social-kill Problems, by Barbara Cooper, 2008. Making friends is a skill like any other. Although it may seem like this skill comes naturally to those who don't have Asperger's disorder, nonverbal learning disorder (NLD), or other problems relating to others, the reality is that even the most popular people must constantly hone their abilities in order to make new friends and keep the friends they already have. This workbook includes forty activities you can do to recognize and use your unique strengths, understand the unspoken rules behind how people relate to each other, and improve your social skills.

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